We courted for 1 year and 8 months and kissed for the first time on 8/14/2010. SO, let's first quickly break down the difference between courting & dating. We STAYED out in groups with people and family & we were rarely alone in our almost 2 year courting process. It wasn't EASY but if it was EASY, everybody would do it. Before we even get into that-- let's just make sure that we're ALL on the same page. You can't just "say" you're a Christian cuz you go to church. It was great for him and I to see how each other interacted with others in large groups. The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it? If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word? Try to find anything about dating in the Bible, you will not find anything. Does she seek to build you up and help you with what God has for you? Some of you are in a relationship with the person that God wants you to marry and you will eventually marry. While you are praying for someone, someone is always praying for you.Nor will you find anything about courtship, but we do have biblical principles to help you when seeking a Christian relationship. Marriage is probably the greatest tool in the sanctification process of a believer’s life. Confess your sins to the Lord, don’t go back, You are to chase Christ together. be blameless, not arrogant, not hot-tempered, not addicted to wine, not a bully, not greedy for money, but hospitable, loving what is good, sensible, righteous, holy, self-controlled, holding to the faithful message as taught Has she surrendered her life to the Lord? Sometimes Christians get into relationships with Christians and it just doesn’t work out. What you must not do is become bitter and say, “everyone around me is in a relationship why am I not? I believe: 1) Men should initiate the relationship.
It shows how Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. No one besides the Lord will come before the person you are going to marry. You have to say no to everyone else when it comes to your spouse. Do you listen to His conviction or do you do what you want to do? Run to Christ and whoever is keeping up with you introduce yourself. God will replace the person He has taken away with someone better. You must keep your eyes on Christ and pray for His peace and comfort when you are single because you will kill yourself if you are constantly thinking about it. Sometimes God uses singleness to drive you in prayer.
You could be engaged and SO close to the wedding day-- HOW do you abstain?!?
Well, this post may be for you if any of the above applied to you.
As a practical matter, are you responsible and holy in the way you possess your own spirit, mind and body?
As you move into the stage of life in which you begin to seriously consider marriage generally or a particular relationship, your first step should be to soberly reflect, before God, on your own spiritual walk and maturity in Christ.