I love his "tough love" - because sometimes it's hard to see how much power we actually have, and because so many "gurus" are afraid to say the truth about men and relationships.If you've been frustrated and confused about why your relationships aren't working the way you want them to - this book will change your love life.”)There’s two parts to this problem you find yourself facing.The fact that he pulls away when you need him, which I have a very good explanation for, but also another message. However, there’s a small message I have for you, and it’s a message of hope and a possible reason behind your man pulling away. Let me guess, you’re in a relationship or you’ve been dating a guy for a while and suddenly or slowly your guy has started distancing himself from you, which you can feel it in every cell of your body. You wonder if he still wants to be with you or you’ve been done something to annoy him, which made him pull away? He’s been contacting you multiple times per day to check in on you, and he’s been making lots of comments about how busy you are and how he wants to see you more.Does that questioning and self-doubt sound accurate? You want to see him too and at the same time you have other pressing concerns that you are not able to shelve or put on the backburner right now.We women have been sold the lie for so long that we have no power in relationships - and Evan turns that lie around and gives you your power back.
When he’s pulling away it’s time to look at your balance between “Interested and Independent”. You also have a boyfriend who you’ve been with for about 12 months and HAS been going really well, except things have changed a little.The biggest mistake many women is that instead of allowing her man the space he needs (and we all need space from time to time), she interprets his need for “space” as a reflection of how he feels about her – as a result her anxiety builds, she fears that he’s going to keep withdrawing and at some stage leave her. The number one thing you can do is STOP and connect with your feelings and insecurities and choose to respect his space and understand him. You’ve explained this to him and you thought he understood and knows that you spending less time with him has nothing to do with him – yet he still texts you all the time and calls you when he knows that you’re stretched.Instead of being gracious and a woman of high value, she overcompensates, which then has him doing more of what she doesn’t want him to do… See his behavior for what it is; a man getting some space – too many women start SQUAWKING and FLAPPING like birds in distress, hoping the man will do something to appease her, to make her feel secure and wanted, except the guy sees her distress (or neediness) and wants to get even more space. All you want is for him to support you through this time and give you a kiss and cuddle when you see each other, instead of feeling as though you’re letting him down.Men will withdraw from the relationship; they pull away. When a man is in love – he can usually probably spend more time with you before he needs to pull away; but each man and each moment is different. However, when men pull away, we tend to become scared and unable to interpret their body language in an objective manner, and remain high value. Most men can only take being connected deeply to you for a certain amount of time before they need to remove themselves to find their equilibrium again.At the root of it, the same sense of insecurity that made the guy obsessed with finding out if you like him is now scaring him into thinking that you’re going to “take his freedom away.” Generally speaking, most guys have a fear of being “trapped” in a relationship, but in this particular scenario you’re dealing with a guy who’s actions are especially dictated by avoiding unpleasant situations as a primary motivator.